Today, I received a letter from the son of a man I served with. His father was killed in 1992 when he was five years old. This kid was asking about what his father was like and was graduating from college. He was sad that another of life's milestones was happening without his dad there.
Then he asked how my wife and kids handled the stress of knowing that I could walk out the door and never return. The thing is I have never been married and have no kids that I am aware of. That got me thinking (danger Will Robinson danger).
Well, the weak answer is "The Corps never issued me a wife and kids" The real one is that I got jaded and didn't want to deal with the stress. Real strong marriages are rare. I can't begin to even describe all the divorces I saw from Marines I served with. I saw the pain that the kids went through. The last ten years or so, I had young men sitting in front of me in tears because they could not figure out a way to save their marriage. War never helps. So, I figure why enter into something that has a huge chance of failure. I admit there are times that I regret not having little tykes running around. But, as I have yet another friend going through a divorce, I just can't see that as an option. Women say either I have not met the "one" or I am afraid of commitment. That is not true. I don't want deal with the 50/50 chance that someone wants half my shit if it doesn't work out.
Well, should I tell him his father hated his Mother and cheated on her every chance he had? Or should I lie like a rug?
Posted: 05/06/10 at 15:47 (1004 views)